Realism or Optimistic

For me personally, bad thing or good thing I am go down the realism way of thinking, this does not mean I'm negative about things but I do tend to look at the bigger picture, looking at the past and seeing what the future potentially has in store for me by looking at the older generations around us.

One might say we make our own life, our own future and that is true but as a realistic person that I am I have kinda already determined how my future will pan out

So what am I talking in reference to? The Gay way of life

10 years on the scene tells a big story, I can look at the younger people and see myself as I used to be but I more often look at what is in store for a gay man as he hits his 40,s 50s and so on and it does not look like a pretty future, in fact I see gay life as an older man a very lonely place to be

I say that because gay men don't really have kids so in the future when the family has passed, there will be no son or daughter coming to visit me, there will be no grandkids coming to visit me, many of my friends now will have moved on or even departed this world and whilst one might say that is the same for everyone, in some ways yes it is but in other ways it's not

Straight people do tend to settle and stick with one person their whole life, that is not set in stone and there are people who don't but a lot do or they share kids so they will have something in their future

As I look at gay men, the relationship time span does not tend to last that long and unfortunately for a gay man who is older and single the chances of finding someone are pretty damn slim, so unless you settle young I always see that been a 50 year old gay man and beyond is not a place to be if your looking to find that special someone.

I hardly ever speak to couples (gay couples) who are older and have been together a long time, but what I do see is old men sat at the bar alone and I have spoke to the older generation of a gay man and their story is pretty much what I believe that finding someone is like finding a needle in a haystack at their age and they regret not finding someone younger

So whilst I am in a relationship now, someone I like very much I do question the fact that I have been there with men in the past and said to myself "This is the one for life" but clearly it has not been the case and nowadays I don't even say who ever I am with will be the man for life because something always tends to happen

So what are your thoughts on the matter of the future life, are you a realism like me or are you optimistic about your future relationship life.