I have one parent

- April 2008 -

You may remember a post back in April 2008, it was about a very unexpected email that I received from my dad, actually I will call him Andrew as I only have one parent. This was the middle name I had removed by deedpole from my name about 4 years ago, after all it was an irrelevant part of my life and my name.

Any how, so yes 2008 after what would have been about 20 years not in my life I receive this email out of the blue, ya know no cards or birthday wishes or any form of contact up until this email. So we exchange a few emails all that I have saved, in fact there were 12 emails exchanged between 16th of April 2008 and the last one received on 20th of May 2008, not even a month.

In between these emails we got out the way the fact that he had not made contact for all these years and I learnt a bit about him and he learnt about about me. The last email he sent me was saying here is my number etc and we could arrange to meet up, my reply back to this was I was not ready to meet yet. After this email I never received a reply back

After recently reading the emails, you will know what I mean in a minute I can't see any form of bad attitude, in fact everything is very friendly and getting to know each other

Anyway moving away from that for a second, going back to the fact that I never received a reply back a little while passed and still nothing. I was then reading in the newspaper about my grandads passing, in the newspaper I read this. I would have loved to have gone to the funeral but it was too late and did Andrew inform us, no he didn't

In fact I posted a blog dated 18th of July 2008 talking about the fact that he never informed us, in between May 20th his last email and 18th of July Andrew had still not replied to my last email

At this point I sent an email thanking of him for not letting us know grandad had died. I heard nothing back from him. It was a very basic email saying just that, thanks.

Flashforward - 2 years later in April 2010

I'm unsure why I bothered to send it but I guess I must have had a think about him or something but I decided to send him an email, bearing in mind 2 years had now passed since last email. I sent a quick simple email, not expecting a reply saying "I assume you don't want to talk as it has now been 2 years"

Here is the quite shocking reply I got back, very unexpected and uncalled for. Blaming me for bad attitude and to grow up. All the emails we sent were on good terms other than I guess the sarcastic one I sent, which was something he deserved as he did not bother to let us know someone had died, when he did have the ability to contact me, nor did he reply when I mentioned the fact that he did not bother to tell us. Would he have wanted to know if my brother died? his other son. He also goes on to mention he wanted to get to know me but as soon as I sent that last email saying I was not ready to meet yet there was no contact for 2 years until now.

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His email makes no sense, it seems to be his pathetic way our of his lame failed attempt at been a dad. To be frankly honest I don't care, his name was removed from my middle names years ago. I have now blocked him so he cannot communicate with me. I have sent him an email saying not to bother communicating or attempting to. As far as I'm concerned I have one parent, a great parent she was and my Dad, is just a nothing, dead in fact to me.

Here are the emails in order from me sending him one dated April 2010. I'm sure you can see my point. I might even post all the other emails to see no bad attitude, just to prove a point

Wyatt to Andrew - I can assume that as it's been 2 years since you last sent me an email that your not bothered to talk

Andrew to Wyatt - It's not that I'm not bothered about talking but i thought you made your feelings quite clear with your little outburst after my Grandad passed away. But if you now feel the need to talk feel free.

Wyatt to Andrew - You had not spoke months prior to that I think I had a right to outburst to be honest when no one let any of the family know, other than the newspaper. I would have gone to the funeral seems I did visit him too but it was too late

Andrew to Wyatt - it is obvious that nothing has changed. you had an attitude when i first got in touch with you and you still have. i tried to be right and wanted to get to know you. you haven't the faintest idea what grandad went through all you think about is yourself. well in my opinion you have two choices. either be right and start acting your age OR get on with it but count me out. granted i made the first move but i didn't expect you to be trying to bicker all the time . your choice.